Random Annoyance #3

What I'm about to post is REAL TALK as my daughter and her friends like to call it.  This blog goes out to the women who might read my postings.....

Why is it that we, as women, can tell a complete stranger that the way they are treating their child is atrocious, but we cannot tell our FRIENDS when we think they've stepped too far with their own child?  Why is it that we can tell a complete stranger that the clothes they wear do not flatter their figure, but we cannot tell our FRIEND that their Tinkerbell Pajama pants do not give them any allure?  Why is it that we can be truthful to complete strangers, but cannot tell our FRIENDS the truth????  Explain this to me?  Are we not all after the same thing?  Happiness?  Family?  Friendship?  And are we going to get it by backstabbing and gossiping?  Well we might get something that resembles it, but it's an illusion....because secretly we're all waiting for our FRIENDS to do something against us, or scrambling to get them beforehand...

Now if you are of the few lucky women I know that have a friend or two (or more) with whom you can be completely honest with, kudos to you!  I have one or two that I know I can say ANYTHING to and even if I called them out for having a stupid moment, they appreciate my HONESTY!  They appreciate that I had enough RESPECT for them, as well as for myself, that I don't have to fake my friendship with them.  I wish ALL of my friendships were like this, but alas I recently was re-taught the valuable lesson of "High School Bitch" behavior....from four different people at once.  They couldn't be upfront and honest when they had an issue over how a fucking facebook group was going, but were fine with savagely raking over the coals an ex member because she has a rather large nose....they didn't attack her behavior or her morals, or even her standards...just remarks like "You could ski off that sucker" or "Santa could retire Rudolph and hire her"....you get the picture.  I was up front when that behavior and those posts bothered me...I considered leaving the group...but I was WOMAN enough to speak up and try to fix the situation....and then denied the same respect when something happened, that I wasn't even a contributor to, and they decide not only do they not like how the group is going, but they don't even want my friendship anymore.  Like I said...tell a hater a truth, but then tell your "friend" a lie....I'm tired of that shit.